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*razybeast
writes:How can avoid falling in love again?Ive been in love for about 4 years with my best friend and I think I have finally got over him which is great because he is such a dick to girls (I'm a guy.. Gay.. He's not... It's complicated) but since he has had a messy break up with one of my mates and then again withthis trashy girl he has crawled back to me trying to be my friend After basically ignoring me. In my eyes we arent friends anymore, I'm not sure if he has took the hint and I think I have finally got over him but I really want to keep myself from really liking him again ( I will probably always like him) but already, the way he gets under my skin, the way he talks so smoothly, how he is such a sweet creep... I won't be able to resist him cause there will always be that part within me that thinks there could be more.Just how can I prevent this from happening again since he will carry on in the same way, flirting, then me falling, then him ignoring and me unliking and it goes constantly. Seriously need the help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): Well, where I come from, homosexuality is not an option. But all the same, I want you to ask youself this question, "what did I really want". U do really want for sometime far more serious or because he makes u happy. Guard your thoughts very well and know what you want.
..Joe..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2011): This guy sounds like a total jerk who needs attention. When he's not getting attention from where he wants it, he goes to where he knows he can get it. I used to have a toxic friend like that. I thought she was better than me and idolized her. But she was just a horrible person who was using me when she needed her attention.
The way I got rid of her was I moved and changed my phone number and never saw her again, but it litterally took 5 years to accomplish that. I'm guessing that isn't an option here.
My advice is to tell him that you understand he had a messy breakup, but that you can't be friends anymore due to passed behavior. Remove him as a friend from everything (phone, social networks, etc.) Toxic friends are not good for you. And falling in love with them is worse. And if he is straight flirting with you, then you know he's just all about his own ego and doesn't care.
You deserve way better both in friends and a boyfriend, too!
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