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*ack20
writes:Hey, i'd appreciate anyone's advice that's been in this situation before, or even going through it right now!My ex and I have been broken up around 7 months now, and we've remained really close friends,but the problem is I still have strong feelings for her, even though I'm in a really good place mentally and emotionally and I can live without her!The thing is I just can't bring myself to approach other girls. Losing her was a huge blow because I never imagined us going our separate ways. The main reason she wanted to break up was because she felt she has her whole life ahead of her and the relationship was way too serious( she was 18, I was 19) and I understand and appreciate that.I'd really appreciate any advice, because I'm not the type of guy that likes to have different girls on the go at once, I don't want to be in a relationship for the sake of not being lonely, and I still have feelings for my ex! Just realy stuck!
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reader, desesperada  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 you're welcome! Good luck, keep me updated :)
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reader, jack20 +, writes (19 June 2009):
jack20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey! thanks for the advice, it's good to hear it from someone else! I couldn't agree with you more, I still love her so much but if her happiness doesn't include me as her boyfriend then I have to set her free! It gets a little tricky when I start imagining being with her again, but I guess that will pass!
thanks again!
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reader, desesperada +, writes (18 June 2009):
Dear Stuck
I have been in this situation before and I ended up getting back with my ex after 7 months of being apart. My advice would be to be alone for a while. Focuse on other activites, maybe a hobby of some sort?..do you have anything you have always wanted to do but havent? Use this time to explore and have fun, really get to know who you are without your girlfriend.
If she told you that she feels it was too serious it is because she is not ready to be commited to you. You wouldn't want her to be with you and be thinking about how badly she wants to be free...its like the saying goes..If you love someone let them go, and if they come back to you then their love is yours..if not then it never was. Just be patient and give her her space..if it's meant to be she will come back to you.
good luck!
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