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writes:its been 5yr we were been merried and now i have a 1 yr old kid.he spends lot of time with my kid but nowadays he don't spend much time with me. so we had lot of talk regarding this matter he normally says that he loves me a lot. if he loves me he have to show me that from the things he do.but he is not doing that.so i have given so many chance to make the thing righ but still the same.now i'm fed up with it.now i know that it want change.now our relationship is somehow very much different.so what can i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Hi Hunny
Its usually the other way round, where the mum spends heaps of time with the children and dads to tired when he comes home from work. Its family life sweetheart everything changes when children come along as our precious little gifts take up so much of our time, It is so very difficult to fit in work play time and special time with our partners but not impossible, Talk with him hunny and find some kind of routine so that the two of you get that special time together..If your little one has a routine bedtime then that should be your special time, sometimes housework and other chores get left for these special times but its very much worth it to grab them while you can...Its good that your husband spends quality time with your child a good bond will be formed and a happy child will develop. You need Time for you, Have you got any family that can babysit hunny? As this could be a start to get you out and on your own together again, Even if you cant afford to go out you can still ask someone to care for your little one for a few hrs so you can get this special time, You can plan this as a suprise for the both of you hunny, I no your upset that he doesnt seem to be putting much effort in to your relationship, Sometimes we ourselves have to start the ball rolling to make a bad situation better hunny, if you want a chat message me anytime its always difficult with the launguage difference to no if you have understood properly, And not really knowing if you have the options I have put to you this is also difficult, I hope this helped in some way, TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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