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writes:i'm sorry if this first bit sounds like i'm bragging but i promise i am not. i am very pretty. i have always been told this to the extent it becomes extremely annoying. i am always voted first in the poll which decides which girl the guys in my year would like to date and i am always the one who gets whistled at in the street. i do not dress like a slut and most of the time am in jeans and t-shirt. the problem is that i think this is why the boys want to get with me. none of them even take the time to find out what i'm like and won't pay any attention to what i say. this is why i have not had a botfriend in over a year. even my best mate (who is a guy) said that if he hadn't known me since the day i was born he probably would only talk to me to see if he could get a shag. i really want to know how i can get guys to fall in love with me and not my face. once again i hope this didn't sound braggy but i really want help- anything would be appreciated. Juliet xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): just get to know the guys then ppl will eventualli realise ur more then just a pretty face
and as for when ppl whistle at u and stuff it happens to most ppl who are above average in looks just take it as a compliment. thats wot i do
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reader, Saz666UK +, writes (23 March 2008):
right straight away i am going to say i had the same problem but not for look (boobs) it is very hard to get a guy to talk to you well to your face....im 21 now and have just started a relationship with my best friend trust me it will be the best thing you do because once your with some one people actually want to talk to you to find out about you and i also agree with lazy guy if your bf is taken or your not attracted to him or what ever expand your hobbies so you have intrests to talk about with people
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Guys always go for looks first, no matter what, the old saying 'girls use sex to get what they want, and all guys want is sex'. The amount of times guys talk about girls looks is very substantial, I'll admit it I've done it with me mates hundreds of times. The main way you can probably succeed is talking to/meeting people with the same interests as yourself; you get to know them, they get to know you. I'm the same age as you and I would say dont go for the loud mouth ones, the shyer type will think 'she's bloody hot' privately to themselves, and would want to get to know you better so they feel they are on an even level socially with the loud ones. I'm just about on the shyer of the two sides myself, and would say it would be better to talk to them, they would be more willing to listen and take interest in your person. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Guys always go for looks first, no matter what, the old saying 'girls use sex to get what they want, and all guys want is sex'. The amount of times guys talk about girls looks is very substantial, I'll admit it I've done it with me mates hundreds of times. The main way you can probably succeed is talking to/meeting people with the same interests as yourself; you get to know them, they get to know you. I'm the same age as you and I would say dont go for the loud mouth ones, the shyer type will think 'she's bloody hot' privately to themselves, and would want to get to know you better so they feel they are on an even level socially with the loud ones. I'm just about on the shyer of the two sides myself, and would say it would be better to talk to them, they would be more willing to listen and take interest in your person. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Drop the makeup, and where less revealing clothes for starters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Let guys get to know the real you . They know your pretty but they have no idea whats inside your head . So let them know . Give your opinions and ask them for theirs. Let people know your interests. That's all the advice I have .I hope it helped in some way ... :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 Well, why not your best mate?
What is the "real you", are you sure it is worthy of attention? Not being mean, but if you got no hobbies, no intrests then perhaps your looks are all you got.
If a person not blessed with looks asks how to meet people, it is often suggested to find a hobby and meet people that way. Become friends, expand your social cicle and maybe you meet someone you like.
Well same to you really, except that you might have to accept that men will always go for your looks before they become friends. That doesn't have to mean they are not intrested in you as a person but just that looks come first.
If you really want a difference, a man who is first your friend and only then a lover you really only have a chance with men who don't think you are in their class. The shy guys. Don't expect a jock to care what a hot a girl is really like.
And you want GUYS as in more then one to fall in love with your personality? Not A guy?
If you want people to fall in love with you you got to make sure they have time to learn the real you. Look around you, you have no male friends who remained your friends even after you made it clear you were not intrested?
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