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writes:so how do i forget about this girl? shes four years younger than me but i cant help my fealings. she even said if i was younger shed of asked me out. and she wants to meet me (as friends) her words were 'dont suppose we could meet up somtime?' this was after she pourd her heart ot to me over family life and her life troubles... she was pretty upset but since then we dont realy talk as much and i dont like it, cos i do wanna meet up to take our friendship to the next level (not dating) but she hasnt followed thru with it... and she never speaks to me now with out me speaking to her first... ie; i always finish a convo with a question so we can continue it later but she is replying less and less, but i know she likes me i just think its wierd about all the topics we spoken about and she said she realy realy trusts me... if we hadent have had that talk where she poured her heart out.. it was a bit of a heart to heart... she was realy upset then i wouldnt be persuing her.. so i think she has given the wrong impression? but i wanna continue talking as friends meet up as friends ... dating is out of the question until shes 17 or 18 cos of age diff, but i do like her she likes me and i like talking to her...to summarise incase i wasnt very clear;we had a heart to heart... i felt special knwoing she could trust me and i could help her out. why did she tell me her personal troubles?we both like each other as friends and if we were a closer age (thers only 4 year init) we could be dating.is it worth wating a couple of years to maby date? i love talking to her but she seems to be losing intrest. how do i keep her intersetd?she has asked to meet up but isnt following through with it. why isnt she following thru with her request?what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2011): Hello. I thunk this girl is kind of unstable. However, that doesn't mean you have to be affected by that. I understand how you feel like, because I'm going through something similar. Here's my advice: take care of yourself. I know it sounds silly, but when we become obsessed about our relationship (any kind of relationship) or lack thereof, it is a sign that there's something wrong inside us. Here's the real law of attraction: if you are not satisfied with your own life, that will drive people away, no matter how caring or loving you seem as a friend or lover. If you are satisfied with yourself, that will attract people. So instead of "promoting" yourself as a great friend so she will come closer, work on being satisfied with your own life. Do activities you like, hang out with friends and get yourself a life (sometimes people say that in an offensive way, but it is true, sometimes when we obsess over a relationship is because we don't have a life). When that happens, you'll see girls and friends will come by themselves. Of course, changing your attitude like that does not come for free. You'll have to realize you've lost this girl, at least for the time being. That means pain and a grieving process. But once you're out of that, you'll find that life is easier. Good luck, buddy
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