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writes:Hi everyone,Ive been with my partner for nearly 3 years, i love him very much and want to make our relationship stronger.Since it has been our first proper relationship we've had a lot of ups and downs. And because of these we are now living apart.I want to build the trust between us again and create a strong relationship. But with him living away and not liking contact too often, its become a little difficult. I call, email etc as well but try not to hound him.I just want to make everything right, any ideas?thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 November 2012):
 If he is living away by choice and not contacting you I'm not sure what's going on.... but it sounds like the relationship is over and you are doing all the rowing...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): "I just want to make everything right, any ideas?"
You are asking the impossible. You cannot build love and trust with a person from whom you are separated by distance and who does not communicate with you.
Couples in healthy, functional, "proper" relationships do not have "lots of ups and downs."
If there is no trust, and because of that you are now living apart and he is "not liking contact too often," then you have no relationship.
I'm sorry, but at some point you are going to have to abandon your unrealistic Fantasyland expectations and start accepting cold, harsh reality. Otherwise you are leaving yourself open to much pain, heartache, misery and anguish over a loser who is not worth it.
I suggest you might want to consider counselling to understand why you continue to cling to a guy who appears to now have no interest in you, if he ever did at all.
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