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*unshine8508
writes:How do ask my boyfriend if he wants to live with me? We have been going out for 9 months now. I have been for the past month spending 75% of my time at his place, and he is making a lot more effort for me like meeting my friends,cooking for me, saying sorry and telling me please dont cry when we argue. I like to clean for him but and I'm findin it a bit silly that I clean two places now. I feel apprehensive to ask him, but lately he has wanted me around a lot more and I have been stayin the night 4 -6 days a week. Should I give him more time before I ask? Or do you think I should wait for him to ask? I know he was married before and cheated on, but its been 5 years now. Reply to this Question
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (22 March 2012):
"Would you like to live together?". Or any similar question will do.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 Asking him is a bad idea, but talking to him about the future and living together one-day is fine.
Say something like this:
"I have really enjoyed spending so much time with you recently, it is great that we are getting on so well and I am round at your place for most of the week. It seems a bit silly to be paying for 2 places when I am here most of the time, so what do you think about moving in together one day? Not that it needs to be right away, but I see myself having a future with you and I think it would be great to live with you"
Make it very clear you dont want to move in right away - after all you havent been together that long and it isnt fair to push it onto your boyfriend without any previous warning. Just raise the subject like you are talking in general about the future, and see what he has to say.
If he doesnt want to move in with you anytime soon, then simply stop cleaning his place! You are not his maid so you dont need to do that for him if you are unhappy cleaning 2 places.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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