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writes:my girlfriend and i have been dating for close to 10 months now, and known each other for about two years. today we got in an arguement while sitting in her car and i swore at her after telling her i never would. now i love her very much and i didnt intentionally swear AT her really it just kinda blurted out. any problem we have we fix quickly and it isnt repeated and even after telling her thiss she stays mad. she then after my saying got mad thus bringing up her ex. her ex treated her like complete crap and very horribly and she said when you swear it reminds me of him. past arguements she has said the same thing and goes on to exclaim that she wont deal with that stuff aymore or ever again. after telling her countless times i wont turn out bad or treat her bad she says she knows i wont but is worried our little arguements will keep happening. also after telling her that i wont do what her exes did she says well you just did. she says that she is completely over him which i believe and that she knows im nothing like her exes. i am completely stumped and dont know what to do. she trusts me, loves me, is honest, and would and has told me anything. but everytime we have an arguement her past is brought up. can someone please help me and tell me why she still after so long and telling me she loves me still brings up her past?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell yeah i already know that or it wouldnt be brought up. i keep explaining and showing her i wont turn out like that anytime. its the fact we dont have our own problems its always related to her past. she scared of losing me because of it? insecurity? what is it, what makes her STILL bring up her past everytime after me explaining convincing and showing her how much i love her and try to get her to realize im here to stay and i wouldnt hurt her? can someone give me a more therough answer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): The reason she`keeps bringing up her past when you guys argue is probably because that when you do the things that her old boyfriends did then you remind her of them and it probavly scares her because though she won`t say this it`s because she`s afriad that you`ll do the same thing because you`re acting like them
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