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writes:First off, my bf and I have been together for nearly 2 years now and I am 21 and he will be in June 6th. Well, you know how in relationships, as well as any other relatio ship for that matter, that you once in a while communicate with the person saying I miss you or some stuff like that? Well, I feel like I'm the only one that does it now. I'm not the type that wants constant talking with my bf cause we both love our space but but I've noticed that he doesn't do this anymore and this stopped like 6 months into our relationship.Today I questioned him again (I have done it a few other times) and it seems that everytime he answers me its not a straight answer. I know for a fact it's nothing to do with me cause he always assures and promises its not me but communication is key and he wants it too and he said it at he very beginning of being with me. There was a even a recent time I was gone for 5 days on vacation and I had to contact him on my own. His answers so far, which I'm sure you all want to know, have new. Idk, I grew comfortable with you, I see you everyday, I do this with other people too, I'm not good at talking, and "I'm used to my relationships ending within a month" (I'm his longest and so is he). I actually believe its not me cause he is full of sincerity, sometimes cries when he tells me it's not me, and wishes he can do better. I just really want to know why and if there's another way I can go about this at all. Thanks for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, Katie-Lynn +, writes (18 April 2013):
Katie-Lynn is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your honesty, I appreciate it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 April 2013):
 Why? because after 6 months the newness wore off and he went back to being his true self. He's even said he's like this with everyone else.
so you see him daily and still want him to text you or call you or email you with "I miss you"?
I gotta say if I was away for 5 days I would prefer to be the one to contact my hubby on my terms vs him bothering me with "I miss you" kind of stuff.... I'm on vacation and with my friends and I'm probably busy and don't have time for him on his time.
So to recap
why: because it's the way he is
and what can you do about it... nothing much you've already told him what you want and he's explained that it's not his nature to be what you want or need.
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