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writes:Been with my partner for nearly a year. Recently discovered she's pregnant. This is fantastic news and initially she was really enthusiastic. Only two days ago she was bombarding me with texts when we were in our respective jobs about how happy she was...it was lovely it really was. Then yesterday it stopped. Almost nothing. I got home last night and she's really cool with me. She had time to text her friends, browse the net then down went the phone and not even the usual cuddle, just the back. If you saw the texts we were sending you'd think it was a different person. I'm feeling really bad about this. Not so much needy as concerned. How can she go from inspired to ice maiden in 24 hours??? She knows acting like this upsets me and that I can't tell her without feeling like I am coming across as needy. What is going on? I would never be so inconsistent. I am SURE she does this on purpose. I have taken into account the possibility of hormonal changes but surely her current attitude to me is unfair. Thanks....
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe had a miscarriage :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): Just support her. Pregnancy is a very challenging time for some women, some can make it look easy while others are ruled by mood changes and illness etc... You can't take it personally and take every action to heart, if you can remain consistent, even it she's arguing or crying, then it will help her. Yeah it will be hard to ignore the fact her attitude is a bit different but think what she is going through! My sister in law had a horrendous pregnancy and was depressed and quite ill. What got her through was her partner just being himself, she might snap at him and instead of bringing it up he learnt to let it slide, like water off a ducks back.
There's still alot of time ahead and while I am not saying her behaviour is right, have some consideration that she just might not be able to control these emotions and will need your love and support. Congratulations and best of luck : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): From what i have heard, some women go through constant mood changes while pregnant. They can cry at the drop of a hat, be very happy one minute, unhappy the next.
As it has only been a few days, i would take it as hormonal at the moment. Dont become cold with her. It is probably better to keep the peace. If it continues say something, but when she is in a good mood.
Also, even though it is hard, try not to take it personally.
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