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writes:I’m 49 and single a 26 year old work mate asked me out. After a few dates we had sex. I fell in love and she didn’t. Now she just wants to be friends, “hang out” = no sex. I need more to continue the relationship we started. I know there are social ramifications in the age difference and I know the obvious answers but do you have any insight as to how to mend my broken heart and how to work together without constantly feeling sad or wanting to ask her out. I feel the fool, I am hurt and I feel she was the "one"for me/. Everything I say has become rhetorical and now I am the pleading, begging sad sack. Can I win her back? Should I try? How can I go to work everyday and coexist? Thank you
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Can you win her back?
Probably not, and no, you probably shouldn't try. It would not be out of bounds to ask her reasons for changing the relationship if you haven't already. At least then you could know.
How can you still coexist at work?
That's much more difficult. I would recommend avoiding all contact except when absolutely necessary. Basically you're not going to be able to have a friendship with her. You'll always be wanting more, and it will taint the relationship. I don't blame you and it's not bad for you to stand up for yourself and say that you have thought it through and you're not able to move backward in the relationship. That as much as you like seeing her, you need some space and hope she understands and will respect that.
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