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41-50,
*ove really hurts me
writes:I met a guy my age and fell deeply in love with him, but have driven him away at the same time which has left me heartbroken, I hate to think of life without him and need him back, how can I win him back and keep him intrested?
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reader, love really hurts me +, writes (19 July 2007):
love really hurts me is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontoo late, we have had a huge fight, found out what he is really like, he lied too me about alot of things it's really complicated and i am gutted, but he played with my head and for that i cant forgive him, he messed me around in the end. O well it always happens to me and you wud think i shud be used to it by now, i always seem to find the wrong ones. maybe one day i will tho but until that day comes i will have to keep kissing the frogs and seeing what happens, but this guy has learnt me not to let my gaurd dwn until i really know them, i am building a brickwall around me as we speak, cos i cant do with heartbreak again.
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reader, LISAG +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Keep it as friends ONLY then, NOT "friends with benefits". That is being USED (when sex is involved as friends). Then you'll find out in time. Don't get your hopes up and then you won't be disappointed.... on the other foot, you may be very pleasantly surprised once his problems are out of the way! Hope it works out as you wish!
See other guys in the meantime, keep an open mind always -funnily enough doing this makes other men around you sense competition and they love to win I tell you. It may also make him realise what a great thing you are to have around and he might decide he wants you all to himself ! Lets hope so for you !
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reader, love really hurts me +, writes (19 July 2007):
love really hurts me is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the reply. we have just spoken and i have discovered i haven't driven him away, there is more to him then i knew. he has major problems at the moment and i have told him i will be there to support him as much as i can, but then i find myself thinking am i hoping for something that will never be, but there is only one way to find out i suppose, call me stupid, crazy or what ever but he means a hell of a lot to me and i want to find out. i also know he feels somet for me too. and b4 anyone ses it i am not convincing myself, i know this for a fact. but for the time been we remain friends and see what happens. is it a gud idea or am i just going to prolong the agony i feel without him? i dnt know.
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reader, LISAG +, writes (19 July 2007):
No one wins anyone back I'm afraid. He's lost interest already - too late to shut the stable door once the horse has bolted!
Don't waste your time, move on as hard as that is you must !
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