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writes:Hi, i just came across this site so i thought what the hell i'll try it:) i was in an abusive relationship which the only way i got out was a real bad car wreck that almost killed me. i have been in recovery for 5 months now i should have a full recovery. my question is a legal one. we are no longer together (i'm very happy about that)i would like to file something through the court stating that he use to beat me i have no proof... i don't want him arrested just because we are no longer together but, i want something written so maybe this can help out another girl he dates. can i do something like that with out proof? or even going to court not really wanting something to drag out i just want to make it known he abused me and i want to help anyone i can. Thank you!
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reader, Fierce +, writes (24 August 2009):
Fierce is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for the advice... i think i'll just let this go but never again i'm gonna stay with a man who hits! this site is so great glad i found it have a blessed day!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): As said above without actually pursuing a case you cannot say anything. I would also strongly discourage you from doing it word of mouth as that would be slander and you could be sued.You have gotten free, make you strong again and move on from it. I dont mean to sound heartless but you cant fight anyone elses battles for them.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 Without proof, you most likely cannot hope to press charges in criminal court, and it would be hard to go to civil court to ask for damages without it as well. At best, you could make a statement and have it witnessed, with whatever fact and dates you have (try to write it all down), in case someone else ( like the current girlfriend) ever asks you to be a witness in court. Your testimony is always worth something in the eyes of a jury, if it is ever called for.
If it took a car accident to get You to see the light, I somehow doubt that, in her eyes, "a potentially jealous ex-girlfriend" would be able to sway her. You could always slip her a note with this link -
http://www.familyshelterservice.org/assess.html
Good Luck with your recovery and stay the heck away from that guy, please. If he contacts you again, make sure to document what is said and times and dates, in case you ever need a restraining order against this winner.
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reader, sunshine123  +, writes (24 August 2009):
hey im not too sure if you can file a complaint with no evidence. Id say the best thing to do is to call up for free legal advice, there are legal aid services which will have all the right advice for you. I know of legal aid websites where i live, but you'd have to search on the internet for ones in your local area, im guessing you would have that there aswell.
All the best!
Also, thankgod your out of that relationship, its great to hear when women break free from that lifestyle.
All the best again!!
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