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writes:Two years ago I went out with this guy who I thought was perfect for me and when the date ended he said call me I said I would. The only thing was that the next day I went to Paris for a week and my phone broke while I was there so I had no way of getting in contact with him. Then when I had catwalk competition after when I came back and I was really busy. I hadn’t forgotten about him of course, how could I have? Anyway the summer holidays past and when I came back to college I when to my class and sat down and directly across the room from me was him. I didn’t know what to think, people had told me rumours about him all summer and I was really starting to dislike him, stuff about him being a womanizer etc. But as soon as I saw him my heart pounded.We never spoke but he spent the whole year watching at me, like he was confused, or whenever the teacher said something from our assigned literature that related to me or us his head would spin straight to me. And I’d look at the ground pretending not to notice. But the end of the year when we were taking exam’s he mate was trying to push him to ask me out but he kept saying no ‘she hates me’, ‘what if she says no’.Looking back I feel like I should have made a move but there was no chance and we were both scared of rejection. He kept telling people how we would be perfect together and when it came to the lest lesson as soon as finished he walked to the door opened it half way stopped and looked back towards me, I made the mistake of looking down and paying no interest. This was a guy who had built a reputation on having short term relationships, leading girls on, and he was telling all his mates that I was his dream girl.I didn’t cling on to it, we’ll I did, but I didn’t dwell on it, I dated then I got myself a boyfriend when I went back for my results and he walked right past me. Time seemed to slow down when I realised who was looking at me, I had to double take, I wasn’t exsictly in his eye line, he looked into my eyes until he couldn’t crane his neck any longer. It was the first time I’d looked at him in a year when I realised I wasn’t over him. How could 1 date have had so much of an effect??I’ve been dating and have had boyfriends who I’ve loved very much over this past year but even when I’ve had the best day of my life and I sleep soundly I always dream of him and waking up wondering why…. Why? I fell for him but I’ve fell for other guys before and after so why him? We hadn’t seen each other in 3 month when we went to get our results and he still felt something for me. I just can’t help thinking if there’s any chance some of that feeling could still be there, and if so how can I see him again without making a dam fool of myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2013): You will always regret it if you don't take a chance!This is your second chance at happiness, don't throw it away. You had a date with someone you thought would be perfect for you; you promised to call, and then circumstances got in the way...Upon your return, you've had MANY opportunities to explain to him what you told us, why haven't you? Ignore the rumours, the hearsay, and discover for yourself what you think. The next time you see him, find a private corner where you can say you need to speak to him. Then share what happened - that you really enjoyed your date with him, that you had every intention of calling him except you left for Paris and your phone gave in, you lost his contact and then life got in the way, and fear, and so much time has gone by, what does he think? Then give him the chance to say: he wants to go out again, or ... where he is at? He may have someone else by now, or he may be waiting for a chance. When you didn't call he probably did think you were not interested, seeing as you had promised to call. Give it a chance, and good luck :)
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