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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am such a mess. I going out with a guy for 7+ years and living together sharing with another guy for last year and a half. My problem is he doesnt talk to me about stuff. Recently I found he had run up a huge phone bill. I came across it and he acted like a kid caught robbing sweets. I'm like tell me about it its no biggy. If he has any issues or is angry with anything he never tells me. If I have an issue i say it but I get no response its like talking to a wall.I recently asked him would he like to move into another place where we would have no privacy, our own place and I could'nt get an answer out of him for 2 weeks. When I finally did it was 'i'm happy enough here for the moment'. Its so frustrating. We wanted a rent reduction, instigated by boyfriend, because prices have fallen so much and we were paying way over market rate and he was to say it to our house mate who deals with the landlord and he kept saying he had'nt had chance to ask him. A week and half later I said it to our house mate because boyfriend had'nt. He admitted after he was avoiding asking housemate and that he didnt want to put housemate out by moving out. Basically he chose our housemate over me. The thing is neither me or boyfriend are particularly happy with the living situation with the housemate. Help I know its a rant and a half but I just dont know how to get him to open up. If i do the quiet thing he would never bring up anything. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lady bugg  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 If you feel like there's a problem with your relationship just teel him how you feel
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