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*oveseeker64
writes:my girlfriend of 8months appears to have trust and anger issues.I am a photographer.i mostly shoot with models or i used to.after 2 months and me moving to her city,she tells me she hates me knowing these models and hates their pics.Ive NEVER cheated on her.she assumes things and one night got mad,,rode up to my car and flew a picture frame with glass in it @ my face.it hit me too.i had gotten her a soda and i threw it into her car before i drove off.i didnt know it hit her. it cut her above the lip.she came by my house to give me the sodo and two other frames she had bought,then drove off.we barely talk and i feel like crap!! I never wanted this to happen! what should i do now. Ive said i was sorry many times......... Reply to this Question
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reader, loveseeker64 +, writes (19 June 2010):
loveseeker64 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didnt cut her face. the bottle bounced of of the head rest in her car and hit her face and she got a cut.i would never try to hurt her. the plastic soda bottle was for her anyway...i just tossed it in the car. I was sitting in my car when she drove around and threw the frame @ me. she was really angry! I love her and would never try to hurt her.it was an accident!!
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reader, loveseeker64 +, writes (19 June 2010):
loveseeker64 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIve taken her or asked her to come to every shoot that ive done. she accuses me later of having an interest in each model.ive photographed her as well. i think shes beautiful and shes not in competition with anyone.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 June 2010):
 YIKES. You're 41-50 and you both are throwing things at each other??? What's going on here? I'm sure you know that it's wrong to assault one another, and I'm stating the glaringly obvious.
Putting that aside for one moment, your photography is your livelihood. You earn a living from what you do, and being able to shoot models takes a lifetime of building your reputation and portfolio and upping the worth of your time.
I assume that you were doing this long before you met your girlfriend. Taking pictures of models, even bikini or nude is your business, and one she has to accept as being a part of who you are. You are a professional and only a professional.
Her anger issues are quite another thing. She absolutely will never change, and the more familiar she gets with you, the more easily the rage and violence will come to her against you. Sounds like she's not the only one with a temper if you have it in you to cut her face with a soda can or bottle.
You should break up with her because you two are not good for each other.
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reader, o0tracie0o +, writes (18 June 2010):
 speak to her and get her to give it another shot. sometimes you have to make ur spouse feel comfortable even when you dont understand why. when you speak with her try n determine why she believes you are unfaithful and ask what you can do to gain her trust. maybe bring her with you to a few photo shoots? flaunt her and give her a reason to believe you are proud she is yours and these models are just your work. women are very sensitive creatures. it's hard for us to understand and believe what you are saying. if you truely care for her, do what it takes. ask questions. find out what you need to do to make her feel comfort. now is the time for you to voice any issues you have in the relationship as well.
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reader, Liza999  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Unfortunately there is not much you can do as her insecurity issues have nothing to do with you! It sounds like you care for her and as long as you are making her feel special, giving her attention and reassuring her that you only have eyes for her than the rest is up to her. This may get a little tiring for you but depends how much your willing to put up with. Don't ass kiss my friend this is her problem not yours!There will always be girls that are less and more attractive than she, she needs to be okay with herself!
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