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writes:Hi everyone. Hope i can get some advice. Me and my boyfriend split up new years day after 3 years together... i am getting out there and keeping busy. And feel like im not too bad in dealing with things. Theres just one thing bothering me...i know that a time is going to come when he meets another girl. The thought of this scares me so much!! Its gonna hurt so bad to see him with someone else. Im dreading that day. Its like im hurting at the momemt but i know the hurt is gonna be ten times worse when he meets someone else. Is there any way that i can prepare myself for the hurt that im gonna experience.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): To answer your question anonymous...we broke up because it just kinda fizzled out. We became more friends than a couple. Passion went. I did try to sort it out but it was just one sided all the time(me doing all the work).And i couldnt live with that. So we just called it a day. Sad really but just because i love him doesnt mean he is the one for me.....we were too different! Thank you all for taking the time to answer my question!! Really helps to get things out there..
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reader, Velma  +, writes (8 February 2009):
I would busy myself with other things, particularly things you enjoy, as much as I could. Confide in your girlfriends. Go out and do things with them. Meet someone else when the time is right. You'll get over him. But remember that, just as you are allowed to meet someone else, he is also.If a relationship doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. I know you don't think so now, but really there are. When you do meet someone else, the man of your dreams, you will hardly ever even think of Mr. So and So., or he will be pretty low on the totem pole.
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (8 February 2009):
Hey there...Well this situation happened to me a few years ago and you're right the feeling does suck when you see your ex with a new girl.Well one thing depends on whether or not you have to see him on some sort of basis (ie. do you work together, go to school, live near you, etc.) If it is none of those things than hopefully the easiest way is to not see him in person if you don't have to. If you do have to see them it is much harder (I went to university with mine and having to see them in class everyday was pretty hard) so keeping busy is about the only thing you can really do.The only thing that will come out of seeing him with someone else is perhaps a sense of closure. A few other things you could do is eliminate ways to check up on him...if you have him on MSN or Facebook, possibly take him off of your list to eliminate temptaion of checking up on him.I don't really know what else to say...I think you are already in a better spot than me if you feel you are dealing with it fairly well, I dealt with it horribly from the beginning so I think the fact that you are strong will also help, good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): You are just going to have to prepare yourself sweetheart! There will come a time and a day when that will happen. The only thing you can do is grieve, get all your emotions out, surround yourself with friends and family, and then get back out there! You are still young and you have a lot going for you. Just keep your head up and tell yourself everything happens for a reason. If he meets someone else, it may feel like the end of the world but it isn't. You will meet someone new as well who will treat you how you need to be treated and do for you what your ex couldn't. I wish you luck! If you don't mind me asking..after 3 years together, why break up??
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