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writes:Hey, ok well I've been with my boyfriend for a few months now. And I love him so incredibly much. Well the problem is, that it always seems as if he has issues getting hard. But when he does finally get hard the sex is incredible. But I know he feels embarrassed when it takes him a while to get it going. Also, I cant give him any oral sex or be on top during sex, which may seem like a dream for most women but sometimes when you love and respect your significant other, you want to do them the pleasure favor. But its almost as if he can't get hard when he lays down. And its kinda gettin discouraging...I know theres plenty of pills and oils that could be used but I don't want him to feel embarrassed like im insinuating that he's not good enough.Advice Please!*Dee
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reader, NameIs_B +, writes (6 May 2012):
My bf and I had the same issue when we first started. If you love him as much as you say you do then be patient. Expressing how discouraged you are towards him will causes him to be more self concious and delay any performance you are wanting. What worked for us was following his lead. We would have sex how he liked it and showing interest in the positions and sounds he likes. We would try on top sometimes but once he went down or started to go down we'd turn back over and not stop to talk about what happened. We would do pillow talk and express the positive things from the incredible sex we just had and didn't bring up the negative right afterwards. Also try having him enter you soft and feeling the warm and wetness from you. Allow several pumps and if you like intense kissing to continue even if he doesn't get hard right away.Keep trying oral and don't get discouraged, give encouragement and express how attracted you are to him. Once he gets hard faster you're sex life will increase greatly!This worked for us and we've been together now over 3 years and have great sex in any position with minimal issues.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 May 2012):
 Laying down can be an issue getting hard. Try massaging his member while he stands in front of you - applying kisses and licks as well. Standing in front of my woman during oral sex is also very stimulating in my experience.
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