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writes:Ok, my best friend has been in love with this guy for 7 years but theyve never had a relationship. This is because he would rather use her for a one night stand than have a relationship with her. She knows this but every time he clicks his fingers she goes running to him. For the past 4 years Ive been trying to distract her from him by introducing her to other guys but shes not interested. She even went to work abroad for a year to forget him but still went to him as soon as she got back! And hes really horrible to her too. He will tell her what she wants to hear - "Im just not ready for a relationship but I when I will be we can be together" - and other crap just to get laid. Then after he gets what he wants he ignores her. He a horrible person. And then theres the other thing. He is best friends with my ex. My ex dumped me for someone else TWICE and I never really got over it cos I really loved him, for some weird reason. Anyway, every time he sees my best friend (whenever shes with horrible guy) he will do things to try and wind me up even though im not there i.e. talk about his new girlfriend or kiss his girlfriend and make sure shes watching thinking that she will come back and tell me, which she does and it annoys the hell out of me.So really I need her to get away from this horrible guy but I just dont know how to. Soon he will find a girl he wants to settle down with and drop my friend like a hot brick. This will break her heart. But she dont listen to me or anyone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionanonymous you are so wrong. "I will have her all to myself soon so chil out" Im not some 7 year old child in a school playground, I am clearly just looking out for my best friend so go take your answers to someone elses question! And me, a bitter individual? Hmmmmmmm, thats rich!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): Do yourself a favour and stop being such a bitter individual. Oh yes and the other thing.,he`s friends with your ex who dumped you twice. You dont need to get her away from him,as like you say,as soon as he finds someone he`ll dump her anyway. You will have her all for yourself soon,so chill out.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 One thing you can do is tell her that if she sees your ex you don't want to know about it. That way you can keep yourself from being hurt further.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 If you want to be a good friend, don't judge her and don't lecture her. She is an adult, and I guess she already knows very well what's going on with Horrible Guy , and where she is heading to. Nevertheless,she has decided to go ahead - respect her decision, and don't lay it on too thick about how horrible is Horrible Guy, you'd just make her feel bad for being so weak. Just be there for her , and if ( actually,when ) she gets her heart broken, offer her your shoulder to cry on, possibly without saying "I told you so ". After all, you are not totally in position to cast the first stone : your ex sounds pretty horrible too !, he dumped you twice for someone else, he acts silly just to get your goat ..... and (you say it yourself )you never really got over him :).
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 I wish dirtball was wrong... but he ain't.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 September 2010):
There is nothing you can do. Sometimes we have to let our friends make their own mistakes. You've told her how you feel. She's seen the evidence and been hurt, but she is making the decision to go back despite the fact that she knows in her heart what will happen.
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