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*overgirlxx
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half and I'm his first girlfriend so he's not too sure what to do but I really want him to touch me in a special way (as in on the body) how can I ask him without saying anything and without freaking him out!!! please answer soon. Reply to this Question
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reader, lovergirlxx +, writes (8 March 2009):
lovergirlxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok thanks i will try next time we are togheter and i feel it is the right time although if anyone else has any ideas please cary on posting them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): ALL of sex is about communication. If you don't communicate it to him clearly, he's just going to either A) do nothing and/or B) do it in a way that will frustrate you or worst, leave you (both of you) unsatisfied.
Taking this slowly is fine, but if you're going to be slow as in constipated for 10 days straight slow, then you might as well not bother.
I'll scale down my advice. Let's say I'm the girl at your age trying to get my special friend to touch me...
1) We'll be sitting together somewhere and start kissing. As we kiss, I'll place my hand on his leg and caress it. Along the way, I'll find his hand and caress that, then slowly guide his hand to my leg.
2) If he doesn't do anything, I'll lightly kiss from his lips to his ear and whisper, "When you touch my leg, it gives me goosebumps. I love it." If he still doesn't do anything, then guide his hand to caress your leg and eventually lead it into your inner thighs.
3) Encourage him by trying to arouse him. I doubt I really need to give you advice. Use your hormonally-charged imagination to think what you can do here.
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None of this aggressive, but it is assertive enough to make it happen. Mind you, the above is just my example of what I would do. You have to find your own technique for where you like to be touched. Start off at a place that is easy to reach and as low-profile as possible. Your leg, your arms, your neck are good places to start.
Then from that point onward, you can encourage him to move onto your other more sensitive areas.
If this doesn't work for you, then nothing else will really work for you. Sex = communication. If you can't even do this, then you might as well wait until you're both older.
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reader, lovergirlxx +, writes (8 March 2009):
lovergirlxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks and no I think that is the right way to let him start also HOW DO I HINT? I have never been touched before, I'm a first timer for being touched (but not for being a gf).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): I'm the same age range as you but still believe that the boy should make the first move - call me old fashioned.
It will seem like your, begging/desperate, if you ask him.
Your best off hinting. That way your not directly asking and could make him feel much more confident.
You should give him a break, you are his first gf.
Whatever you do DON'T pressure him.
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reader, lovergirlxx +, writes (8 March 2009):
lovergirlxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i cant see him cuming yet lol he has just maged to start kissing me and i think i would freak him out a bit if i started see thats my problem!! thanks for the help though please keep your answers coming!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): Put your hand on his and guide him as to where and how you want to be touched. Whisper into his ears to give him hints. Encourage him by touching him back.
By the way, it IS possible to get yourself pregnant if some of his stuff get on his fingers while he touches you down there. Sperm doesn't necessarily die immediately when it is exposed to air.
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