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writes: SO, My best friend has a new boyfriend, I don't know him too well and... neither does she. They knew eachother for a day then decided they like eachother. I don't like this guy. He has been known to hurt girls in the past and be a total jerk, he's a d-bag to ME (and she is completely oblivious) and I just get a bad vibe from him. I know, that sounds ridiculous, but my vibes are usually very accurate. How can I put the thought in her head that maybe he isn't Mr. Perfect? Not to make them break up, but to clear the smoke of affection from her eyes.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 You do nothing. If she knows he's cheated and she wants to stay, she's a big girl now, right? Seeing as you are 18-21, wouldn't she be in that age bracket too? So let her learn her own lessons in life. You can't fix things for other people, alas. Let her learn the hard way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOH LORD.
I was right. He cheated on her. And she still wants to stay with him... okay NOW what do I do?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): don't make her do anything just talk to her and explain how you feel if she chooses to stay with him and it works fair enough if it dont go well offer your surport and dont rub it in that you were right ect, but if she chooses to leave him help her get over it and move on and just be a gd friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Maybe if you sit down with her and calmly tell her your concerns. Perhaps start with, "Listen, I know you really like this guy but I am a bit concerned about him...." and then explain your reasons. If she is really into him she may be defensive and try to shrug off what you say. Try not to argue about it though, or outright put him down. Just tell her your worries. If she gets upset, just say that you are her friend and care about her, and just want to express your opinion. But once you have told her, that is all you can do. If she is happy with him and wants to be with him, you will have to try and accept that. There is no reason for you to be around him if he is unpleasant to you. But all you can really do is share your view, and then let her decide for herself.
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reader, RIKI93dw  +, writes (21 August 2010):
I suggest u dnt tell her the whole story otherwise she might think your jealous so I think u should look out for her rather than trying to convince her what he is really like because she may notice herself sooner or later hopefully if she does that it's not because he's hurt her.
Maybe if your suspicious of him you should give him a clear message not to mess her about in any way then if he does then you should tell your friend what he's like. I hope this will help
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