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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Many years ago, I dated a wonderful man, who was probably the love of my life. Unfortunately, I treated him terribly. I was mentally ill at the time, and after our breakup, he decided that he shouldn't have any contact with me. It hurt me, but I tried to move on with my life.I dated someone else for a few years, and then met the man who would become my husband. We have now been married for four years. We have some issues, but are generally happy.Recently I came back into contact (only via email) with the first man. He is happily married, and has been for years.The problem is that all of the feelings that I had for him have come rushing back. I still love my husband, but what I felt, and still feel, for this man is so much more.I'm not planning on telling him. I don't want to do anything to disturb his life. I guess my question is, how can I forget the feelings I have for him? Is it possible for me to have any contact with him and NOT feel this way?Any advice on forgetting an ex would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): It makes me wonder, who got in contact with who?
I don't think that you should remain in contact with him as it IS your contact with him that is recindling your feelings.
These feelings could damage your relationship with your husband and if you loose control of them you could end up telling him and it could damage him marriage. If either of you have children it is especially important.
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