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writes: Hi, i was in a 7 year relationship with someone i really really loved. I did everything i could for him, while he attended school and just when ever he didn't have anything. He would never do anything with me at all. He always acted liked he was ashamed of me. We now have a 3 yr old daughter, he never even showed for her birth, and then never came around after that. I called him and asked what was goin on and he replied that he is seeing someone else. It really hurt but i just let go and filled for child support. He then came to me askin for me to stop it, and said he was no longer with her. We started talkin again but it was a lie. The girl and i found out about each other and she slashed all 4 of my tires, tried hitting me head on with her car and then drove in circles around me calling me horrible names. After that he had to make a decision and he picked her. Again it hurt but i left it alone and even changed my number. A few months later he came back telling me was sorry and he didn't know why he would ever treat the mother of his child like that. I forgave him, he didn't have a job so i help him out again, but then when i got everything together he left again. I lost my home and when i asked him for help, he said no, and then i found out that he got back with the same girl. I don't know what to do, am so hurt, and can't even describe how i feel. Everything he does with her i wanted and now they do it with my daughter. I don't wanna see or talk to him again but since we have a 3 year old thats hard to do, and i hate that my daughter is around a girl that tried hitting me with a car. Am havin a hard time dealing with it, and if anyone has any advice, please help me
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 i understand that you want the best for your daughter right?
Well if you think she is in danger when she's around this evil woman then you can stop her seeing her and even come to an agreement that she doesn't see your daughter.
But even though what she done to you is NOT acceptable, this doesn't mean she'll treat your daughter badly.
Ask your daughter what happens when she sees her and how she feels about seeing her daddies new girlfriend, if she's happy with everything then you shouldn't worry too much.
If your ex isn't paying for his child then you should start making him as it's only right.
You do need to get over what happend and realise that you are stronger by not reacting in a bad way like this girl did when you found out about this cheating liar.
Of course you should keep things civil though for your childs sake
I hope this has helped a bit
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reader, lola80  +, writes (12 August 2008):
oh you poor girl !!! What a horrible nasty human being he is ! You really need to move on with your life and although i know your finding it really hard you will be ok , Your right to cut of communication with him unless its to do with your daughter , I fear the biggest issue your dealing with is rejection and taking it as some kind of flaw against yourself and not realising that he is just a cruel and very selfish man who only thinks of himself ,I know this from experience i let my childs father come and go as suited and he only disrespected me more for it , and he blamed me for all the arguments in our relationship he constantly let me down , And would be doing the same thing today if he was let And by the sounds of it your ex probably wouldnt respect a nice decent person like you ! It sounds like he has met his match !! She sounds like a low life just like him , you can be assured that this man will try and come back into your life again when his relationship with her is over as he sounds like a very dysfunctial person and a total user that has no disregard for your feelings , He will come back with his sorrys and begging for forgivness he was wrong and he loves you , So nows the time to build yourself back up and realise that a real man that loves you would never hurt you with intention , look on the internet for self help books , talk to friends but stay away from him , dont let him turn you life upside down again it will lower your self esteem further and effect your daughter to , and if its eating you up to much try and find a way to forgive him yourself but not forget , dont let him have all that power over your emotions
I Hope this has helped a bit
Take Care
x
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