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*ickieleigh
writes:I am 39 and my husband is 54. We have an 8 yr old son together, and we have been together for the past 11 years, three years after we got together, he went to prison for 3 years, I waited on him faithfully I might add, and he has been home for 4 years now. We got married shortly after he came home, and thngs have been bad ever since. we had never had the first argument before he went to prison, now he acts like he hates my guts. He wont ever take me anywhere, is always displeased with everything I do, and goes out of his way to let me know he don't care about me, unless it's sex time. I am tired of wasting my time on him, but he wont talk to me about any of this, he says I am just bitching, and he wishes I would just quit. I don't understand, how can I be so unhappy and hurt all the time, and still feel like I love him with all my heart? I don't understand. Reply to this Question
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reader, EPocket  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 lets just define love first . in ur opinion wat is it ?
well .
check this page .
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/love
look for how u feel toward him there sweetie . if u found it .. we can call it love as i doubt it :)
have u ever tried to define feelings u got into something else ? afraid of being alone ! being rejected if he left u ! pity on him !
sweetheart . u already made up ur mind abt it . and i quote of ur lines here ..
"I am tired of wasting my time on him"
"of his way to let me know he don't care about me"
u already know how to fix it . mature enough to :) but lets talk abt results here .. there is a kid !!! divorce is not as easy as talking abt it :)
well . dont know wat happened to the guy in prison . how exactly he feel/thinks . wat r u for him . am blank with these . but as i see that u r tired trying and came here lookin for hope .
assume u love the guy and want him with .. in many cases ppl get afraid of breaking the ice and find out the truth and that is WRONG . u MUST share watever u feel with ur partner else .. doubts would slide in and it gonna turn it all into hell . just go clear with him and be smart while u r doing it :) ask him WHY is it all going this way and make it clear for him that u r tired .....etc. make it also clear that u CANT LIVE WITH HIM IF HE KEPT ON . as simple as u feel it . u r the only one that suffers here .
ask him for reason and discuss ways to solve it all over if he is not helping it .. he dont deserve u :) u already done more than wat u have to do for him and no one would expect more from u
wish u luck hun .
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