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writes:Hi! I am a 15 years old girl and i want to ask how i can be popular in my school?I want to have a good hi5, i want to have style and i want people to come talk to me about everything.´Please im desperate i need to be a POPULAR GIRLplease help me Reply to this Question
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 I'm going to start off by saying being popular isn't everything. I know it's an old saying that you may not listen to but it's the truth.
All you have to do is be yourself. I'm not popular however, I have a lot of friends from a lot of different groups because that's all I am, myself.
I mean as long as you have your family and your own friends then is being popular really that important?
Your friends love you for who you are and accept you, otherwise they wouldn't be your friend. Just keep being yourself and mingle. Join different clubs that interest you.
If you want people to be able to talk to you more and everything then just be plesent to everybody, but stay true to your friends. Keep an open-mind, not everyone has the same opinion as you but it's what they think so respect that. Have confidence in yourself.
I've never wanted to be popular, it just didn't interest me but when I started college I remember thinking that making friends would be a nightmare, which is essentially the same thing, but (again another old saying) be yourself! That's all you can do, if people don't like it well that's their problem.
As for the style thing, I'm not good with that stuff - what can I say? doesn't interest me haha - but if you are then look through magazines or ask your friends. But above all do what makes you comfortable (the saying is the same for clothing)
So, to summarize:
Be Yourself,
Keep an open mind,
Have confidence in yourself,
Stay on good terms with people,
Be true to your friends,
and be true to yourself
That's all you can do
Good Luck and don't worry about these things =) x
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (29 May 2010):
The only way i knew how to be popular at school when i was your age! was being myself, don't try being something you're not sweetie, it's very special knowing you truly like who you are no matter what anyone thinks because if they think different of you then their not your friend. and i myself would'nt want friends like that. so be yourself and everything else will all fall in place. always carry a smile on your face!!! and did you know laughing makes you feel good try it you'll see what i mean it makes you happy and being happy is everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): i was going to post a long rant about how stature is a state of mind, but really, just learn some dirty jokes.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 Become popular is what other teenage dream. But i think you dont need to be popular just to have a lots of friends. Stay nice and honest to friends they will come to you without you noticing it. But if you really wanna be popular in your school, then learn, study well.. go to the highest average, go to the top 10, let them know you are smart, but low profile at the same time. By that they will come to you, talk to you everything just like what you want and they will believe in you. And you will make it to the top. Just believe in your self first. Good luck..
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reader, HopesBlossom +, writes (29 May 2010):
I agree fully agree with weepingwillow. Don't worry so much about being popular, be a good friend to everyone and popularity will follow. Obsessing about being popular won't make you so. Just be friendly and nice to everyone and be yourself at all times.
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reader, weepingwillow  +, writes (28 May 2010):
You say you want to be a popular girl, well in my experience people who are popular and well-liked are not afraid to be themselves, are pleasant and friendly and are respectful towards everybody.
You want people to come and talk to you about everything, well the only way to have that is to build relationships. It takes time, you can't just snap your fingers and expect that tomorrow everyone will be hanging off you. Be friendly towards everyone and gain the trust and friendship of your peers.
You want style, well I think that somebody who isn't afraid to be unique and different is cool. Be an individual, be yourself. Somebody who pretends to be something they aren't to gain friends is going to come off as fake in the end.
What is uncool though is someone who is desperate to be popular. That is really a big turn off. People want to have friends who are themselves and are fun to be with, not somebody who is so caught up with the idea of being popular that they are obsessed with it. Stop worrying about popularity and focus on being the best person you can possibly be. Participate in sports, activities, fundraisers, etc. be involved with projects at school. Concentrate on building strong and lasting friendships with people you respect and who respect you. If you do this you will be liked by your peers and will be popular with the people who count.
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