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writes: HiHow to i become more comfortable and confident around boys? I get quite alot of male attention and when i walk down the road quite alot of boys stare at me but i can't smile at them instead i just give them an evil look- but not on purpose.I really wish i could smile at them and give them a nice sweet smile but i can't seem to do it. Also when a boy asks for my number i get all silly and i can't give it to them as i get so embarrassed. So can i relax around the opposite sex...because i don't want to be shy!!!! I'm okay once i get to know boys i guess but not with new boys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): Oh jeez. I kind of have the same problem. But I learned to just say 'Hey' to a guy I talked to a little before and smile a friendly smile at the guys who walk by. It's so easy to see a guy and just look at the ground as they walk by, but then they probably wont be interested because your not confident. Show them your confident by smiling and nodding, or saying something. It makes them more interested in you, and you kind of have control of the situation. Try not to look like an easy target and for some reason guys like a challenge. I dont know if that helped or not, because Im still learning it myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): hey....i used to have the same problem...i still kinda do...the way i got over it was just taking a deep breath and saying hey or just relaxing and thinking if they dont like me for who i am then thats their problem
You dont want some guy liking you for soemthing your not. so just be your self and the right guy will come around evently it may take awhile but you will be happy and feel good once you found a guy you can just be your self around
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reader, know_it_all  +, writes (24 July 2007):
I completely inderstand where you are comming from, when I was in middle school I did the same thing. I don't understand why. All that I can tell you is that I have lots of guy friends and I am confident now. Take any guys that you are friends with and hangout with them as much as you can. Get to know the opposite sex how they act, why they do certain things, how they react, and the things they like. Then use these to your advantage. Once you can get an understanding of what is going on in their head, you can stop worrying about it. That is what makes you nervous, the not knowing. Believe me when I say that most of the guys that you are around will think the same way.
If guys yell at you on the street while you are walking, be careful you may not want thier attention. Make sure you are getting good attention from guys. Just because they are interested doesn't mean you have to be. Also, work on your flirting skills that should help with selfconfidence. Guys like confidence so, good luck,
"Why are you worring so much, just let it go and have fun"
-me
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