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writes:I was in a relationship with a man for 1 1/2 years. I'm 53 and he's 41. For about the first year we were together we were madly in love with each other and talking about a future together. We haven't seen much of each other for about 6 months because he works 2 jobs and I work out of town on the weekends during the summer. But we spoke on the phone every night, and always ended the call with an "I love you". Nothing seemed any different about his attitude toward me. 3 weeks ago we had a disagreement on the phone, and he hasn't called me since or answered my phone calls. I've called him 4 times and left a message once telling him that if he's breaking if off he needs to tell me. I also sent him a short letter to the same effect, but got no response. How can a man in his 40's end a relationship in this manner? I'm left hanging, wondering what happened and why he didn't respect me enough to tell me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Dear Poster
I have empathy with you. I can understand that you are hurting and that you are confused. You cared for this guy, you trusted him with your feelings and now you feel not only rejected, but the manner in which his is turning his back on you makes you feel worse. Now, stop contacting this guy; you have done enough;
I don't know what went wrong between the two of you but for you to keep trying to make contact, well it will not change things; if he is adamant not to speak to you; stop, you are only humiliating yourself.
Take stock of what happened; learn from the mistake and move on.
He is acting like a coward, but hopefully in time to come he might contact you and you will have an opportunity to get closure; however for now, forget about him and try to focus on yourself and your future.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, guillaume  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Hello,
First of all I'm sorry this has happened to you and my thoughts are with your sadness. I'm in my forties and I certainly wouldn't behave like that towards anyone.
You are quite correct, he left you hanging and disrespected you. You have done more than enough now to contact him, try to speak to him, get explanations. It's time to stop.
The best thing for you to do now is to totally erase him from your life. Even if you are hurting and upset inside, make sure you portray a calm outward appearance. We don't know what he is doing or thinking, but at least you now know what he really is about. He has confirmed his nasty side by his actions towards you. Take care, G xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Did u say your 53 than get over it. You women in your 50s need to get a life. He is 41 what would make him stay? He has moved on to someone with less wrinkles and more life than you could show!!
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