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writes:I love my husband but his son is trying to break us up. His son bends over backwards to the nice golden boy when his dad is around but when he is not around his son is completely disrspectful and mean. How do I deal with this when my husband has never seen what I've experienced? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): You didn't say if you have discussed this with your husband yet but I'm guessing you haven't (because you think he won't believe you). I think you should talk to your husband - instead of making it sound like you are "tattling" just let him know you are concerned about the way his son is behaving and that it is upsetting you. Your husband may be embarrassed or defensive about his son at first, but hopefully he respects you enough to believe you. Try to discuss it with him calmly and in a "let's solve this little problem" way. Don't act like the son is a monster or something, the kid has had to deal with his dad's divorce and remarriage and it's not too surprising that he is acting out like this.
Do stand up for yourself if your husband doesn't listen or gets angry with you - remember, you know the truth, whatever your husband says.
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reader, darksecretangel  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 it could be that he is afraid of the attention you are recieving because he wants it and he is scared because he thinks that you are going to replace him in his father's eyes. it also would help to consider about his mother. is he resentful towards you because your his dad's wife and he is still angry with his dad for the break down of the relationship tht ur husband had with his ex. my advice for you is to sit down and have a talk with ur husband's son, ask him what his problem is and reassure him if he does have a problem.i hope this has helped :)
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