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writes: Hi, my boyfriend has little interest in having sex with me. He has a very low sex drive. Ive tried loads of stuff to enjoy our lovemaking when it happens but I dont enjoy it (i dont get aroused). Not much effort from him. Ive tried talking, and lots of other things for 8 months now but getting nowhere. At my request we have been to the doctor to get some help. He has referred my boyfriend to see a physcologist. My boyfriend is not keen but I think he will go. He is also having a blood test to check his testostorone level even though the doc thinks its more head stuff. Id would like some advice or ideas on a) what to expect from the Physcologist and b) sometimes i think its me, I like him a lot, we live together and get on very well but I just cant go through the rest of my life trying to avoid sex when he gets the urge (ive lost my sex drive, not really interested in having sex with him as i know he doesnt have the interest in doing things i enjoy). Id rather do without then have sex i dont enjoy. I keep questioning myself why am I bothering to do all this, its not like im madly in love with him. He said he loves me but Im finding it difficult to say the same thing. Any ideas anyone?
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (6 April 2006):
 I think you are handling everything the right way. going for counselling and to see a doctor. i think the bottom line is that you like this guy a lot but u are abit frustrated with the present situation of things and anyone would be.
What i would suggest you do for now is wait patiently for the therapy and see how it goes. You can then decide what u want to do. If u feel it isnt working and u cant continue like that then perhaps it will be best to move on. Sex is indeed a very important ingredient in a relationship but the decision is entirely yours to make. You are in the situation and only you can tell how bad it really is and whether you would be able to put up with it.
Goodluck dear and all the best.
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