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writes: My boyfriend is obsessed with Asian women and at every opportunity when I'm not around spends hours on the internet looking at porn sites. He even used to sneak downstairs in the morning when he thought I was asleep to go online.He has also aquired naked images of a friend of ours (Asian friend). This friend is married with 2 children and we're supposed to be good friends with the couple.Our sex life is fairly dull. Twice a week if I'm lucky; he seems to prefer his porn sites.Is this normal behaviour? I've tackled him about it, he promised to delete all the images of our friend but 12 months down the line they have reappeared.I can't carry on like this, I find the whole thing very depressing, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2005): Dear, you have some serious decision-making to do regarding your future, with this man. This is no longer a loving, giving, meaningful relationship, anymore. He's addicted to porn, hun and it has become a sick obsession. And I am so sorry for what you must be going through. He's jaded, dear and that is what soo much porn does to the human mind. The most damaging thing about his porn addiction is, what it has done to you as a woman and how it has destroyed your relationship-not to mention your self-worth. And do not listen to any sexist remarks that may be posted here saying, that it may be caused by a unmet needs in the bedroom That's a crock! It's his choice, his addiction, his problem, his compulsion that drives his interest, his need. Hun, he's damaged goods and the only way he can become a bona-fide living, breathing man to you again..if for him to seek serious counseling about his internet sexual addiction. If you can't make him get counseling-I advise you to leave this dysfunctional relationship before it drags you under. I wish you the best of luck and remember, there are many great men out there, who choose NOT to use porn to feed their sexual needs-all they require is a fun-loving, confident, sexy woman next to them. Go find one and be happy.
Hugs,
irish
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