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writes:My problem is that I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now, and we are so very deep in love. We know we want to spend the rest of our lives together, despite how young we are. But, he is planning on joining the army and I can't stand the thought of going months and months without seeing him.Since the start of the relationship, we have talked every single day and to have that taken away, as well as not seeing him, I have no idea how i'm going to cope.I want him to do what he wants, but I have no idea how I can come to terms with this. I feel like i'm losing him, and that the distance might destory our relationship. The thought of this breaking us up makes me distraught and very upset. The whole idea of him being in dangerous situations that could result in his life being taken is very upsetting also. I can't imagine my life without him.I just don't know what to do. Please help? Reply to this Question
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reader, dreamingbella  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 I do agree with the second reader. Once a man wants to join the army, he's very certain about what he's going to do and how dangerous it would be. My advice is telling him how you feel and support his decision. As long as you love him and that love grows enough to keep you both in the same sky of emotion. On the other hand, talk to him about how long would he want to stay. Coz whether you can handle a LDR, there's no way you're gonna be there for 10 years waiting. So hold the point of view and have a conversation. Though most of the army guys start missing home in the very first year away from home. So good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): my first boyfriend i had i met at the youth club we was going out for 2 years and he decided to go in the army, and i know what you are feeling cause i have been there, but i had to let him do it because if he didnt he would of always brought it up in argument, that i didnt go in the army cause of you, and i could of done this and done that but because you didnt want me too i lost out, now thats a argument you dont want to be always having. in my days i had to write letters, was no internet or emailing and as for mobile phones only business men and women had them, so was hard in them days, but he did go in the army and i wrote him every day, he rang me once a week and you know that saying absense makes the heart grow fonder tru too, i use to look forward to him coming home and some times he would suprise me come home unexpected, i use to see him for 2 weeks every 6 months, i did get used to it and would enjoy myself with my friends, but i never ever strayed i stayed faithful had boys try to get off with me but no i was not intersted, it will be hard for you but with the internet now you will be able to go on MSN or SKYPE webcam too so will be much better now, and if you have a mobile be able to text him as well, so try not to get too upset and do tell him how you feel, but let him do this its something he wants to do, and would regret if he didnt i am sure he his as sad to leave you like you are sad to be away from him, i did marry this man and lived in germany where he was stationed and had a few years of happiness with him, but unfortunalty it didnt work out due to my dad passing away and it effected me badly, meant i left him cause i wanted the fartherly figure and he wasnt that, but while we was together was great, but i also vowed i would be never ever do that sort of relastionship again so i got with another man who was with me everyday had a child to him and he left me after 10 years together he thoguht the grass was greener, but now i am with a man who is wonderful and he his do you believe LDR but yes its hard but with having the internet to keep in touch is much better, so dont get too downhearted just keep in touch best you can keep honest, loyal to him and you will be fine good luck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Sit him down and tell him how you feel, explain all your worries and that you want him to do what he wants. But it upsets you thet hel be leaveing and that youl be worried about his safety. Ask him how important it is to him see if there any thing else important to him he could maybe do instead. Just keep talking to him and telling him exactly how you feel and see if maybe you can come up with a compromise.
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