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writes:Well I've been with my Fiance for about 18 months now. Things got serious very quickly, partly because I already had a 4 month old baby when we met. He bonded with my son brilliantly and now sees him as his son. He's a brilliant dad, and a month ago our second son was born. I love him so much and can't imagine life without him but sometimes I worry about our relationship....Its little things really like we bicker a lot, never big rows, only silly little disagreements that we always make up from almost straight away. Also it feels we dont have proper conversations as much anymore - I try but it seems difficult to get him to talk properly. The other thing is sex. When we first met we couldnt keep our hands off each other and made love most nights. Like often, it got a little less specialy when I was pregnant. But things aren't much better now either. We do make love, just not all that often. mostly its only once a week. Often when I try to make a move on him he says he's too tired. I'm terrified we're doomed and that he's losing interest in me. He works full time though and as I said we have two kids so a lot of it could be down to tiredness. I've tried several times to talk to him about this - but every time he tells me i'm being silly/paranoid, he loves me, that were fine and the things i'm worried about are conpletely normal for any couple.I really want him to be right as the thought of him leaving interest and our relationship deteriating fills me with terror. I honestly can't think of anything worse then losing him, I love and need him as do the children we have togther. Am i just being silly? what can I do to feel less worried? Thanks so much for reading sorry this is so long. will be so greatful for any advice
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 How old are you?
How old is he?
You've got a 22 month old and a new born. Is that right?
Does he work full time supporting you and the kids?
Do you stay at home with the kids?
Get back to me as I need more information to give an informed answer. OK?
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reader, gleason +, writes (1 April 2010):
thats the best ? ive heard all day first off yes its completly normal to be tired and work often but what i do in thoes situations is instead of going for sex straight on try a friendly massage and foot rub to relax ur man.
and maybe a little candle light to get the mood in and kiss his back and neck and talk to him about his day it doesnt hurt to wear something alittle apealing but nothing over the top that says SEX
you'll know what to do talk softly and make sure you talk about planes or ideas anything other than work or children so that you can get back into a more personal level
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