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writes: I have been in a long distance relationship for the past 14 months and my boyfriend just broke it off with me two weeks ago. We spent the whole summer together and right before he headed back to school he told me that he wanted to have a great senior year at college and wasn't sure that being in a long distance relationship was going to allow that. He has said that he still loves me and cares about me, and whenever we talk about our relationship we both start to cry. I just went to visit him at school and he treated me like his girlfriend and we are still so good together. He still calls me everyother night to check up on me and make sure I am ok. He even says that he is lonely and sad up at school, I just want to know how I can get him to realize just how good we are together and that he can have a girlfriend and have a great year at school. Any advice would be appreciated, Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): It sounds to me that this guy wants the best of both worlds...A free and easy life of a bachelorhood but, at the same time, someone to call for comfort when he feels lonely. He needs to grow up...and you deserve better!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): This has happened to me two times and in two diffent ways. With the first one I had moved away from home, established a career and life. My boyfriend wouldn't leave his family and I wouldn't move back home where there are few job opportunities. With the second I discovered after dating a guy for several months that he was in love with an ex. I discovered that both men had something more important than our relationship. Even I had things more important than either relationship. Please ask yourself why it is so important to break up with you for him to have the senior year of his dreams. What is he placing before your relationship? What is he unable to enjoy by being your long disatnce boyfriend? Are you enjoying this relationship, if so then why isn't he? Do you share common goals in your relationship? Do you really think you can make him want something he says he doesn't want? Only he can decide if the freedom he craves is right for him in the end. I know this is a lot of questioning. I hope you find comfort in your heart with your answers. The reality and depth of your relationship depends on what both of you are willing to put into it.
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