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writes:I met this man through a dating website he lives in my city, I asked him to be friends with me so he said yes. He told me he has a disabilty, his left hand has a nerve problem so its not easy for him to type and he even stopped to drive. We went all well for 2 weeks, I told him all about me and he too. Suddenly he says to me - Am not sure me and you can be a good match for marriage, I sense you have a lot of fire in you and energy and me for various reasons am not the strong man I used to be to make that balance, i hope we can stay friends.Now please tell me what does he mean, then how come he is making ideas about me without meeting me? Please also tell me what does having fire mean... and should I still be friends with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): It sounds to me like, from what he knows of you, he is worried he won't be good enough for you - assuming the main reason would be because of his disability. So he is trying to settle for less. From what you told us he said it sounds like he is looking for a life partner - hence the subject of marriage, and may think you're too different or too energetic for him, in the sense that you will want more than what he can give you.
This is what I'm perceiving from what you said, I could be wrong. You need to talk to him and ask him why the change of heart, as you'd like to get to know him better. (Assuming you do actually want to get to know him better)
If he's adamant after asking him this and/or meeting up with him, IF he still wants to, then I don't see anything wrong in being friends, as long as you're not too romantically attached.
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