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writes: himy boyfriend of 3years moved to a new city 1 1/2 yr ago,since then things have changed dramatically between us, because of his job he never visit me but on the other hand i visited him 3 times in 1 year and now living 30 minutes away from him but only get to see him like 2 times a week now that hes doing two jobs.he used to be such a loving and caring person to me but now he is not into that but just blame it on this work,he dont say 'i love you' anymore,only sometimes when i say it he replies and other times he just say'thank you',i just cant deal with this anymore he treats me so differently but when we make love its good,the thing is i cant beleive i became such a weak person and just into him and the way the treat me sometimes i feel like crap.i just dont want to give up 3 years.please advice me!my question is should i stay and work things out or just go and dont look back?its a very hard decision when u love someone. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005): hello.
i am, like yourself, in a long distance relationship and have been for 1 year (we were together a year before he moved for a job). as of today, i haven't seen my boyfriend in 3 months so i know what it is like to miss someone. by the sounds of your situation, it sounds as though it may be time for you and your boyfriend to have a chat about the status of your relationship. it sounds as though you are willing to be with him, but he is acting so distant.
i wouldn't reccomend just up and leaving him without at least having this discussion first. ask him how he feels things are going, and what he sees for the furture between you two. also tell him what your views are. if you aren't satisfied with the results of the conversation, tell him so, and tell him that you don't want to waste anymore time with someone who doesn't want to be with you...you deserve better than that. but be prepared to take into consideration that perhaps he really has been busy with work. if you can see yourself really being with this guy in the future, you will talk to him and try to work things out if you feel it is worth it..if not, you sound you,g, so go and get yourself a guy who is right for you. i hope i have been of some assistance to you, best of luck!
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