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writes:I was dating this guy for about 2 months; at first I was not at all sure whether I wanted it to advance to the next level (we never got physical). We got along great! We could talk for hours. He was probably more interested than I was, began calling me more and more, and finally we had this sort of weird conversation, which he initiated, where he said he was "falling for me," and asked me how much "emotional investment" he should make, etc. I was really still sort of on the fence but leaning toward his side, and did not match his feelings exactly so my response was more qualified. The next day, this man who had taken to calling me twice a day, and who was totally into me, suddenly became too "stressed" to see me; unsure if he was ready for a relationship, etc. This was almost a month ago. He backed off bigtime; I haven't seen him since. He continued to call me (we live 100 mi apart)and email, saying he just needed to get over some health/stress issues, but insisting he was still interested in me, etc. Finally, when he made no move to ask me out, I sent him an email suggesting that he call me if I was ever on his dance card again; the next time he called I said I did not understand what the point of keeping in touch was if we weren't going to see each other again. He was like, we can see each other... ("can"?)He's still emailing me. What the hell happened here? He swears there is nobody else and my hunch is that he's being honest. Reply to this Question
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reader, jomo +, writes (3 September 2007):
jomo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks -- very good advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): The first thing is try to cut off the idea of dating this guy and get to know who he really is, beause, well, from your words i know you actually give a damn about this guy.He could be truly passing through a mess of things really or who knows, just playing you. Whatever way, you can outrun him by being a friend firstly, with no idea of relationship. Through this , you can be on the lookout to know who he really is and what he is up to, and who knows you can be an angel to him. Whosoever you are on earth, friendship is a seed that geminates unforgettable gifts. Conquer his actions by being a friend, get to know him and be smart about it. Good luck.
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