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writes: Hello, Cupid.I am Rex, age 23, male and a Nigerian living in Nigeria. I have a girl which I love so dearly but along the line her uncle hate me and so makes life so difficult for us. But despite all this we are still dating. The question is, do I have tomorrow's possibilities with her? Should I go on? Can I succeed? Am confused; help me out OK? (2) I have another girl which as a result of this one's uncle's hatered, pushed me to date her. Now she's taking the whole thing too personal. Do I tell her to go or allow her to discover it herself ? What do I do? Let me know. (3) How do I build my trust on my lady? I have gotten into many kind of heartbreaks, so is really affecting me. Tell me what am to expect from my ideal girl or wife. Thanks. I'll be happy if my question is been attended to. Thanks a lot as I'll be expecting to hear from you. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Softie +, writes (20 April 2006):
 Hi Rexmannuel,I am not very familiar with Nigeria; however, I will give my opinion based on limited knowldege I have.1. Is her uncle her primary father figure? Would you need to ask him for permission to marry her? If not, I don't really see why it should be too much of a problem.2. Be honest to her. If it was you, would like to be lied to?3. Trust comes from honesty. If you aren't honest with your ladies, why and how could they trust you? If you and your future wife will both be living in the city where you will be able to come home to her every night, find someone who is loving and trustworthy. If she will be staying in the village or in the suburban (outside of the city) while you work in the city, find a strong lady who can take care of things and the kids while you are away. She will also need to be trustworthy as well.With limited knowledge on your lifestyle and local culture, this is about the best advice I can give you. I wish you all the best.
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