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*allDarkandHandsome
writes:Hi, My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we first started having sex and missing around about 2-3 months into our relationship. When it comes down to it she gets really into it when we mess around and says she really enjoys it but after a while the sensations she feels become so intense that she forces me to stop and won't allow herself to reach an orgasm. Also when she does let me continue she gets so emotional and frustrated that I have to stop and spend the next 30 min or so trying to make her feel comfortable and do everything I can to get her to stop crying. It is extremely frustrating for both of us, but especially for her because she believes that she will never be able to have one. I could really use some advice on how I can help her reach a climax for the first time. Btw I'm 21 and she's 20. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): Glad that it helped
Just remember: it's not her fault so she shouldn't be blamed.
I would blame the modern world!
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reader, TallDarkandHandsome +, writes (16 May 2013):
TallDarkandHandsome is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply.
Her family is extremely religious and if wasn't for the fact of her seeing us being together for a while I don't think it would of ever happened. So what you pointed out could very well be what is happening. Plus she has brought up that she doesn't think that she will have one before we are married as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013): She may be feeling guilty.
Some families raise their girls that way. The girl thinks it's wrong to enjoy sex. Or she thinks it's a sin to have sex without marriage. There is a fight inside her. One part of her is aroused and wants pleasure, while the other side is trying to stop her.
Most of these girls are raised by religious or conservative families.
There is not much you can do about it. Give her time and don't give up on her. She will gradually get used to it and will start enjoying it.
If it got worse, you can try a sex therapist. But before that, give her a year or so.
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