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writes:A few weeks back I was visiting my very close friend for the day before she left to go abroad for a year.(we are friends in uni).At one point I was very attracted to her, but she didn't reciprocate, or I blew my chances on what may or may not have been our first date...anyway since then I had a relationship. it didn't work out but I remained friends with the girl and we have become really close. once in a while though my feelings for the second girl come up again.now, before I went home after visiting the first girl, we had dinner together at a restaurant (we have done before as friends) and in the course of the conversation i mentioned my feelings for the girl i had been in a relationship with.she seemed quite taken aback, maybe shocked or disappointed.does this mean she might have feelings for me still, or is it concern considering my relationship with the other girl finished due to sad circumstances?I will never go out with the second girl again. I know this.My feelings for the first girl are, perhaps quasi-romantic. No attraction, but I have this deep and certain feeling that somehow we'll end up together one day, and probably marry. I can't explain it.last week I sent a card to her in wishing her well for her time in Saway. I also sent a small badge/pin showing something of mine that I knew would remind her of. I know she misses our times together so I said this would be a way to help think of me and those times.I got a lovely message from her saying that she'd got the card and the badge, and that she'd keep it in her purse so she would always have it with her.I am so touched...I have asked before about the first part, but the badge...every time she says something really special like that or does something special (for example when we parted she linked her arm with me and walked me to the train), I find it hard to let go of any lingering romantic feelings.What can I do to overcome these feelings, or is it just a matter of accepting them? Reply to this Question
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (17 September 2010):
it sounds like you are falling for her slowly but surely. take things slow, dont rush and see where you end up. maybe not right away but i would let her know how you feel write her a romantic letter.
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