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writes:First things first: I have a boyfriend whom I am very much in love with. We are in a long-distance relationship, but we are making it work - we often talk for hours on Skype. We have been together for over a year and we really are very much in love with each other.I'm at college, and I have met a problem in the form of another guy. He's incredibly interesting to talk to and has done a lot of cool things, as well as being friendly and kindhearted. Damned if I'm not starting to feel a little too much like I have a crush on him. I really, really, really don't want to do this. Of course, if the issue ever arises and I don't know if it will, I will be perfectly forthright with this guy about the fact that I already have someone. But right now, and I feel terrible even admitting this, I sometimes imagine what it would be like to kiss him. That's crappy of me to even think of, I know, and I would *not* kiss him even if the opportunity should arise, but I think about it and part of me wants to. I hate thinking stuff like this! My boyfriend deserves better. How can I stop? :(
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reader, Thelaird1  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 You can't just stop, as much as you would like to.
I think you are genuinely worried that it could affect your relationship, and asking for help here is a good thing to do. However, only you can change things.
You need to mention to this guy that you have a boyfriend and talk to him about that instead of all you would usually chat about. He may even mention his girlfriend to you.
Other than that, I would try to avoid unnecessary contact with him and try to visit your boyfriend and spend some time away from temptation
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