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41-50,
*c_az
writes:I love my wife with everything that I got. The reason why I'm asking for detachment help, is because I think that it'll help more than hurt.We are currently working on our marriage and at the moment I am waaay too attached to her. She says that I am "smothering" her and it's getting too much. She says that she would like for everything to be the same, just me not being a jerk, which I am working on right now.To me everything is absolutely about her, which I know it shouldn't be. She knows that it shouldn't be, I just can't let her go right now. I notice every little thing that she does, and I tend to think of what's going through her mind, which drives me crazy!I just need help with enough of a detachment from her to still show that I care, but not to the point that I'm smothering her.Thank you in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): The term you may be looking for is "codependent" - get to a good councilor and start working on this... Detachment is not enough, you have to address your issues and make serious progress in dealing with them, otherwise, she's likely out the door.
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