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writes:Okay so I am so confised and need some advice. I fell for my college teacher and its not just a crush. I am 18 and he is 20 and we always have a ton to talk about and joke around and play pranks on eachother and are fairly good friends. My college teacher graduated from my college a few years ago and came back to teach but everyone keeps telling me that there is something wrong with me to fall for my college teacher and I don't know what to do to deal with this any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): Quick question: How could your teacher be 20?? You say he graduated from your college a few years ago... So how old was he when he graduated? 20 is extremely young to be a college professor.
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reader, Blebleble +, writes (30 October 2010):
I think there's nothing wrong with that. I dated one of my students a couple of years ago and we had the same fears, but we waited till the end of the term so no one would nag us about it (there were still some people objecting because it is weird in some sense). I think it's a really normal situation. If your teacher is just a couple of ears older than you, he's basically the same age as your friends, so technically, can be seen as a potential boyfriend. Also, schools cannot expect this not to happen: if they give a 20 year old guy a class with 18 year old girls, what is he supposed to do if he likes one of them? Just because she happened to be her student, nothing? I completely disagree. Soon enough he'll stop being your teacher and you'll be able to be with him no matter what, butbif you do decide to be with him before the end of the term, you must separate your love relationship and your academic relationship. Of necessary, ask him to ask other people to grade your stuff (if he can't be fair to you. I was personally more demanding than lenient with my girlfriend, maybe because I expected more from her than from my other students).
This happens more often than you think, don't feel bad about it. As long as you two want to be together because there's something and not because of your academic relationship, everything will be alright.
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