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writes:hi, im a single mom aged 23 with two kids. the kids dad died in a accident 4 years ago when they were just babies. i live alone with my two kids in a lovely home. i had 2 relationships since the death of him, the first one i finished as i didnt feel ready to move on with a serious relationship which is what that man wanted. he was older than me , 40, i think this was always a problem in the back of my mind n wasnt to attractive to me, but was the kindest man to me. a year later i met my other boyfriend who i was seeing for the past 9 mths, n deeply fell for, i broke up with him last week because of d silly rows we always have. he has a 7 yr old wit a ex partner, who used to be a big problem cuz she didnt like me, even tho shes still in with all his family, i always felt like in the back you know. and shes quite cheap and i heard he used to meet her bhind new gfriends backs, but i dont think he did this to me, i know he loves me, but sometimes he has funny ways of showing this. hes 28 n still a bit of a mummys boy, sees his kid on his days off, a sun n tues, n has to stay at home with mommy them days, wont bring the child in to play with my children even though they get along great at christenings, etc... last time we broke up he said things will change but they didnt. he has a bad bunch of friends ,2 of whom have tried to meet me, which i told him about and he never confronted them, instead he went drinking with them at the weekend, told me he cudnt come in for me to make him dinner as he was babysitting, then i rang back n he was gone off with his friends instead of babysitting or choosing me. i love him loads and i dnt know what to do because its depressing been home alone now, i miss him loads n its just been 3 days. the older man i was seeing before him is still around asking to meet n i know i cudnt love him as much as i do him, n dont want to go do a rebound thing and hurt him then, i dont know if i can just get over my recent boyfriend as im so in love with him. i know he will start ringing n looking to come back soon as it usually happens and i always give in. i dont know what to do, i was through so much when my kids dad died i just want to be happy and hate feeling like this.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (25 November 2008):
 Hi,
I am sorry for the loss of your partner this cannot be easy for you bringing up two young children on your own.
We all need love,care,intimacy, and you have lost all those things and yearning to have them back in your life but this guy you say you feel more for than the older one does not sound a stable person do you really want to be inviting trouble here?
He seems to be doing his own thing and coming back to you whenever he feels like it!
Totally disrespectful to you i feel!
You also have to think of your children here he hardly sounds a great role model as a dad and partner when he cannot commit to just you.
I know the other guy is older and you say you don't feel the same about him but maybe that is because of the age difference maybe that hindered any real chance of your relationship working properly in the first place?
You need time to sort your head out and think carefully about this guy who seems to be a Jack The Lad kinda guy why are we always attracted to the loveable rogue???????
Take time for yourself just now and think very carefully what you want to do i would not be entertaining any man for now till you get what you want in your head sorted when your thinking clearly and not sidetracked with anything you will be in a better place to decide what is best for you and your children good luck i wish you well.
Ginalolabridga
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