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writes:hi, i've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and for the last week we've been havin complications in the relationship. one which meant me seein a side of him i dont like. and now he has turned round an said he wants time out, time to think about what he wants, an whatever . i have a feelin hes a bit of of gettin hurt himself an also doesnt want to hurt me either what do i do? sit an wait ? he makes me sooo happy though an i thought we were good togehter but i do admit i nag him to much like callin him an everythin? plz help me thanx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): If you continue to push and push him and not giving him his space, the pressure will build up and he'll explode.
Give him some space, I know its hard and that but breaks are healthy for a relationship - hard to believe. I recommended one of my friends to do it and they've never been happier together.
Breaks make people realize how well they get along, how much they need each other, time to clear the mind and makes people learn from their mistakes on their own.
That wouldn't happen if you didn't take the break.
However I suggest you text him at some point what you've told us. How you feel etc. What you feel about him. What he means to you etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): I understand that this must be difficult for you; however I do suggest you respect his wishes and give him some space; yes, give him some time to take stock;
I also suggest that you take advantage of this time to look at your relationship; take stock, what have you done wrong; what can you do different to change things and make this or any future relationships easier; maybe you have some issues and insecurities to deal with; ( the phoning all the time etc);
I suggest think about your future; how do you see your life; yeah and if you get back togehter, you will be able to work on the relationship; if you don't, at least you would have had time to realize what you have dong wrong or what you can do different in future; we all make mistakes; BUT it is so important to LEARN from them;
Be strong; give this guy some time; do some soul searching!
Good luck!
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