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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i have an older male friend who i've known about a year now. when we first met he was always nice to me, hugging me and always talked with me. as time went on, he's been kind of mean. he doesnt hurt my feelings, but he's been cold towards me, only saying " hi ____ "(and uses a certain nickname he has for me) then a quick brush on the cheek of a kiss and walks away. i asked once why hes been so mean and he teased me and said its because he likes me. then he stopped talking again. its so bizarre. i just want to know what i've done to make him so cold towards me now? i've not said anything and we've never had any altercations. but he can barely look me in the eye and he'll walk away before i can engage in a real conversation...like i said a quick hello and he's off. could he hate me now? has anyone had this happen? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): Yeah he is being short with you. That's happened to me before. I mean I can see how you would interpret that as him being 'mean' just because he is being short with you without you knowing why. Obviously something happened that is making him kind of avoid you. I have no idea what it could possibly be. But certainly you didn't do anything wrong. He is just that type of person who changes personalities like that. Don't take it personally though. This is his problem NOT yours. All I know is that he is trying to let you know, through his 'shortness' that he is no longer 'available' for you in the way that he was before. Just forget 'why' and take it as a hint that he doesn't want your attention anymore. So next time you see him just be short with him too. You know?? Accept his distance. You tried asking him why he was being short with you and he got embarrassed and kind of 'lied' to you saying some BS line about how he likes you. Obviously he doesn't, cause if he did he would not be short with you. So act like you don't care and be short with him too. Just let it be. And above all do not take it personally. It's his problem if he wants to act that way. And yes this has happened to just about everyone I know including me. It happens.
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