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writes:HelloI am 26 years olds, and i have been dating this guy for like almost 3 months, I like him a lot, and I have strong feelings for him, we live one hour and a half away, he is very sweet with me, he caring, we normally see each other on Sunday, but during the week we maintain in touch, we don't talk every day, but we are still in touch during the week, he has even introduced me to his 2 closest friend, and we hang out together 2 times. We said to each other that we have feelings for each other. My problem is that once he told me that he didn't want anything serious, but I think that with his actions he is contradicting himself, and this is without saying that we are already exclusive to each other. So is this guy in denial or is he playing me? you think there is any possibility that we become serious? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (8 May 2008):
 I don't see how his actions are contradicting themselves either. You see him once a week? Usually when guys tell you they don't want something serious, they mean it. Whether that's because they don't want you that way, or they want to explore other options, or they just like being single...it doesn't really change the outcome. What matters is that if you want a relationship, this isn't the guy for you! I don't see how he's playing you either, he told you upfront his intentions. Usually a guy that really wants a relationship with you will flat out tell you he doesn't EVER want to share you and if this is left unsaid, that probably means it doesn't bother him too much at this stage. I would start dating other people and it's possible he could change his mind but I wouldn't get mad at him if he doesn't since he was clear with you from the start. Good luck!
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reader, Jen86  +, writes (8 May 2008):
Give it time and see what happens.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (7 May 2008):
 So how with his actions is he contradicting that he doesn't want anything serious. You see each other once a week, that is casual regardless of the distance between where you two live....if he was serious, time would magically appear and he would ask you to spend it with him.
Three months does not a serious relationship make. Could there be a chance that you could become serious, of course, there is always a chance.
But he has told you he is not in a relationship seeking place, he wants to keep his options open it sounds like to me. If you can handle that and do enjoy his company then keep seeing him, but I would let him know you are still keeping your options open as well.
If you act as if you are independent and happy with or without him, that is when he may feel like securing a relationship with you.
So no pressure, OK?
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