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51-59,
anonymous
writes:This guy asked me out and said he would call me last night at 6:30 and we could meet for dinner somewhere. I have known him about a month but this would be our first date. Well, 6:30 came and went and he never called the rest of the night. I was stood up! This morning he calls me and says "mornin' beautiful. Just thinkin' about ya" and basically acts like nothing happened last night. I told him "thanks for standing me up last night". He says the usual garbage "I'm so sorry but something came up". I told him nice try but he could have at least called to cancel. He said he wanted to make it up to me but I said no way - you just made a bad first impression and don't get a second chance. Anyway he showed up at my work begging for a second chance later in the day. Then he called me tonight asking me out again. I told him no. What is wrong with this guy? He blew it on his first chance so why is he acting like a fool chasing me now? I am no one's doormat and what an insult. I swear I never understand this about men. Is he truly sorry or what? (My better judgment says he blew it so don't give him another chance.) I feel like a fool! Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): i think your being silly about this whole thing.i think something really did come up!! this guy seems like he really loves you why are you letting him go. sure yes it was a bad impression but seriously think about it i think this guy deserves another chance!! think if hes chasing you, then you must be worth it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Sometimes people do stupid things. However, you can usually tell when it was a mistake and when it wasn't.
I think that something indeed may have come up, but he should have apologized correctly, and certainly he should have called as soon as possible. It does seem like he doesn't deserve a second chance. Have you asked him what was it that came up?
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reader, Paladin +, writes (13 March 2008):
 I don't know why you would feel like a fool since it appears you handled yourself and him very well. You are correct he blew it and first impressions certainly do matter. Doesn't sound like he too bright anyway dear. think about it he could have made up some interesting story which of couse doesn't forgive his failure to at the very least call. He doesn't sound like a guy who has much respect for women and maybe nothing else other than him. Most important is that you are far from a fool and your actions were perfect.
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