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writes: HiyaBasically I have been going out with my boyfriend since August 2005.I was in his room one evening, when he was downstairs, and I knocked his wallet off his desk. This note fell out, and it was from this other girl that he went out with before me, called Ash. He still sees a lot of her, he gives her lifts to work 'cos they work together, and she's always at his house. But this note basically saying how much she loved him etc. So last night I looked at his phone when he was asleep and read his messages, and there were loads of them from her. And ones from him, him saying how she'd annoyed him so much that he should dump her, but that he loved her. So I said something to him when he woke up, about how I don't like her telling him that she loves him, and he said that he didn't realise she liked him in that sort of way. And he said that he'd speak to her. I just don't know if I should give him the benefit of the doubt, and if so, how can I trust him again? Any advice would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we talked about it, and then he came back to me saying he spoke to her, and that she blamed the texts on someone else messing about. And he's being a lot better keeping me informed... like with what shes saying to him. So I'm leaving it a little longer to see what happens. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): Hi.
I think you should have a sit down chat with your bloke, put it on the table how you feel and tell him that the ex gets pushed out of his life or you are off. If he chooses the ex then the decision is made, walk off with dignitiy but if he does all you ask then that is ok. Try not to look into his phone. It never does any harm.
I don't think your relationship is right. If you trust your bf then you wouldn't be looking into his phone in the first place. His ex should be just that, EX!!!!!!
Get it sorted now before it sorts you.
Take care
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reader, marie78 +, writes (20 November 2006):
DO NOT TRUST THE EX GF. Hello? trust me, what ex-gf doesn't want to keep her paws on a good guy or a guy she once loved. yes, you should be worried. However, you should tell him that a friendship with an ex is very different from a friendship with a woman you've never been involved with and that you need to know about the nature of their friendship. Whatever he says, believe him! Then, don't mention it again and do not go through his phone. All women have done it and it's an invasion of privacy. Good luck.
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