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anonymous
writes:My bf spent lots of money on his ex but not on me, how can I change this?He paid for everything in that relationship whilst its more evn here. I have tried using the 'I dont have money' trick even though Im quite well off. It seems to work but I want him to pay for more things as he did with his ex. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): I think you guys are being a bit mean. I think it's clear that the asker sees his willingness to pay as a reflection of how much he loves her vs how much he loved his ex. I think it's a fair question, and don't think it has anything to do with being a gold digger. I am also well off but have to hide it as much as possible so that guys treat me the same as other girls - at the end of the day, it's nice for a woman to feel like someone goes out of the way and treats her nice. And yes, I agree, it can be demoralizing to think that your bf has bought his ex things - does that mean he loved her more type of thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): Stop being a gold digger. He paid for her because he felt sorry for her. I feel sorry for him, though, now that he has a girlfriend who wants to use him for his money. Pay for your own sh*t and grow up.
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reader, Big T203  +, writes (19 October 2010):
well you can first stop trying to press the continue button on him and his ex. Maybe he's sick of paying for everything. tho the idea is nice of a man paying for every single thing but this isnt the 40's anymore women have Jobs and careers and now can pay for things here and there. so if all your really after is someone who will pay for things i suggest get out the shallow zone. and love people for them and not for what they can provide for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): Does he have money? You shouldn't have to pay for everything but if you think he should, when you're the rich one. You sound basically like a bitch.
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