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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I really like my best guy friend. He is extremely flirty with me and is very nice and cares about me. All I want to do is be with him. Yet, when one of his guy friends ask him about it, and he has also told me this too, he says "he doesn't want to mess up the friendship." It's hard to try to stop liking him though when he is always flirting and seems interested! He is hooking up with a senior girl, but he told me he doesn't really like her too much and when I asked him who the girl he was hooking up with was, (I pretended like I didn't know he was hooking up with her) he said he wasn't going to tell me yet because he wanted to see if it was going to work out. I thought that was strange because, if he thought of me just as a friend, wouldn't he not care and just tell me? I am on spring break right now, and going back to school I need to figure out what I am going to do and how I am going to approach the situation with him. I really want to be with him so what should I do?
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reader, CHP  +, writes (7 March 2010):
Hey im 16 not far from an age of you...
I know this happens alot with people as you grow older and i have the worrying explanation.
You honestly need to tell him how you feel, he will NOT stop talking to you and he will NOT stop being how he is around you.
Solution in laymens terms: Talk to him about it, see how he feels. If the feeling is mutual (same) then have a nice life :)
If the feeling is different, there is really no reason to worry because he wont feel awquard around you.
(Take this from my own personal experience both being in your position and being the guy that the girl likes)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): Well hun, If he wanted to be with you, he would of tried it with you, instead of this senior girl hes talking about. But! Possibly he does like you too, and if something would happen between the both of you and it didn't work out, then that could ruin your friendship. That's what he might be afraid of, and he's trying to move on with this senior girl. I mean if he is really flirty with you and caring,(and only with you)then thats a sign. And you're right, if he really saw you as a friend he would have told you straight up about her. I say you tell him how you feel hun, you might be afraid that he will stop talking to you or that the situation will be awkward between you and him, but if he's your best guy friend and cares about you, then he will understand, and not make things worse. You talk to him about it hun, don't keep anything in. But you do what you also feel is best, what your heart feels what is right!
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